Terrible Tens to Twelves ~ Puberty in all it's glory

Are you kidding me?

This post isn't to offer advice, but simply to warn.

I have been through the twos which were not so terrible.

I survived the threes which were positively deafening.

We had a lull in ages and now we're stuck in the 10s through 12s and I'm sure will continue on, surpassing puberty, to the 25s...

Oh Puberty...why do you rear your ugly head?

I went through it. You went through it. We all go through it. Having said this, why is it so bad for some?

I was a demon in my puberty stage and so were others in my family. And yet, I've seen some children glide through it like the hormones were sprinkled with unicorn fairy dust.

Where's that fairy dust now??

My son is in the pre-pubescent stage, so he hasn't hit full-on puberty just yet. If his tantrums and anger are this bad now - what is it going to be like when the hormones hit their high-powered surge?

Do I build a shelter? Do I find the ultimate hiding place? How are we going to get through this?

So far:

So far, even though we're in stage one, I've managed to keep my patience in check.
**Patience is key**

I've found that countering his anger with frustration (naturally) exacerbates the situation.
Patience, love, and hugs seem to help just a little.
I will take "just a little".

My son can't seem to control his emotions right now and honestly, I know what he's going through.
Post-Partum depression is like that and I went through it after my second was born.

Then and now, I know that patience rules overall. But, how to you stay patient when your child is going bat-sh!t crazy? That's the hardest part. Knowing that he can't control it, right now, helps me to understand. But, others around him don't know why he's acting this way.

The other child:

My daughter is not far behind when it comes to pre-puberty symptoms. She is almost 8 and is sassy and emotional as ever. By the time she reaches her brother's current stage, her brother will be in full-on puberty.

Bloody-hell.

Hugs and kisses. Hugs and kisses. (Maybe not kisses until this Coronavirus nonsense passes) But, lot's of love. Love and understanding.

That's really all I can do right now. Love and understand him. Let him work through his emotions before I offer any help.

I sure didn't like people butting in when I was puberty-crazy. I wanted everyone to go the h*ll away until my brain resumed its regular functions.

It is not just twos:

When you become a parent, you are reminded over and over about the terrible twos. Twos were great for both my kids. It was the threes that got them.

Even the threes weren't much compared to tens and elevens. And twelves? Oh boy...

Puberty sucks. However, it sucks for them more than us. We need to remember this. 

How did you handle your kid(s) hormonal outbursts?




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